One of the most popular topics that we present in our workshops to local schools is the importance of Raising Resilient Children. In practical terms, resiliency is the ability to get back up when you’ve been knocked down. Sometimes parents forget the importance of resiliency as they go above and beyond to shield their children from adversity. They give into all their wants in order to make life easy. But often, easy can make things more difficult.
As parents, it is instinctual to try and protect your children and keep them from harm’s way. No matter their age, they will without question encounter obstacles and pitfalls to make their lives difficult. The sooner you accept that you can’t protect your children from everything, the better off they will be.
The sooner you accept that you can’t protect your children from everything, the better off they will be.
You can’t ride the school bus with them. You can’t go to bat for them. You can’t keep them from heartbreak. They may get picked on at some point – sometimes kids can be harsh. They may strike out – curveballs can be tricky. They may go through a tough breakup – relationships can be complicated.
The pain associated with these tough times is temporary, and resilient children rebound the fastest. Be mindful that coping is a natural part of healthy maturation, and you play a significant role in helping to develop coping skills in your kids.
Research shows that children who are given the skills to manage stress and navigate through obstacles tend to have better performance in school as well as a better overall sense of wellbeing.
Trying to prevent them from ever being knocked down, albeit instinctual, is not very realistic. Learn more about how you can encourage resiliency in your children – making them strong in moments of weakness.